Do you find it’s easier to notice other people’s successes than it is to acknowledge your own? Do you even acknowledge your accomplishments before you raise the bar even higher for yourself and set another goal to achieve?
Why is it that we don’t acknowledge our successes? Having created thousands of resumes for clients from all walks of life, I’m very familiar with the difficulty that people have in identifying not only their accomplishments but their strengths. Some of this may come from an upbringing where bragging was discouraged, but I think it also goes to our belief that our achievements pale in comparison to those of others. From the perspective of an impartial bystander, this is rarely the case
People are so caught up in their lives that they don’t notice their own courage, bravery, and kindness. Part of the problem, I think, is that our society does not encourage us to stop and take stock of what we have achieved. In the work world, the resume can fulfill this function but there are many other, and usually more important, personal successes that will never be featured on a resume.
I would encourage you to create a This Is My Life resume. Categories you may consider including would be Challenges, Triumphs, Enjoyments, and Attributes. Do an inventory of your large and small successes. Identify those things that you feel good about either starting or finishing. Don’t measure your successes against those of anyone else. This is only for you. This is your chance to review what you have done and to acknowledge your efforts and successes
Are you finding it difficult? If so, look at yourself with the same perspective that a friend would have about you. What have others complimented you on or praised you for? When did you notice yourself brushing aside compliments or claiming what you did was nothing special? Allow yourself to own those things. Create your This Is My Life resume and give yourself a pat on the back for your accomplishments!
As an example, here’s my This is My Life resume
Creative and intuitive individual with passion for my own self-development and for inspiring other people to recognize their brilliance. Committed to nurturing family and personal relationships. Resourceful out-of-the-box thinker with entrepreneurial spirit; talent for suggesting resources and formulating new solutions to personal and professional problems. Value-centered; compassionate, empathetic, and caring.
Creative · Optimistic · Intuitive · Compassionate · Determined · Curious · Committed · Motivated · Idea Generator · Flexible · Self-Directed · Enthusiastic
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